How to Develop Risk Taking Skills


We have opportunities to take risks every day, to explore something or someone new, and to expand our concept of our current reality. As an entrepreneur for 20+ years, living in the gray zone of curious expectation is my norm. On average, I usually have clients booked only two weeks out.  My income fluctuates and depends on word of mouth.  Even so, I trust that I will have exactly what I need.

By continuing to provide relevant and transformative services, I know from experience that the Universe will take care of me. Of course I also have an extensive savings system set up to ensure that I will be able to cover my bills. This combination of cultivating my gifts, continually reaching new audiences and trusting that the right clients will find me has allowed me to do what I love, confident that the money will follow.

Living in the gray area, or that place of not knowing, has a certain freedom, excitement and wonderment to it – if you can fight your resistance and fear.

What is fear really about? Fear is that place of not knowing what’s going to happen. Fear is that feeling that you are out of control. Fear is a concern that an outside force will somehow impact your reality.
In fact all of those things are true: we do not know what’s going to happen, we are not in control and outside forces can and will impact our reality on a regular basis. We are simply under the illusion that the secure job, insurance policy, dependable spouse or days spent at the gym will promise us health, wealth and security.
We can consciously cultivate flexibility in our bodies and minds.  This expansive nature will allow our bodies and minds to be responsive to the winds of change. Every day, we can cultivate our fluid consciousness by taking physical and mental steps towards receptivity and celebratory joy.

What kind of steps can you take to expand your world? Think about the last time someone invited you to do something new or you encountered an idea that perhaps conflicted with what you already know. What was your initial reaction?
For many of us, our initial response is often a resounding NO! No to the new, no to the unknown, no to the unexpected plan, no to change. However, after some quiet time, a decent cup of coffee, and a stretching of the body and mind, we can revisit the ‘intruder’ and gradually allow it into our lives. Once we take the first step towards embracing that innovative concept, unknown friend or unexpected opportunity, we can usually wrap our minds around learning more.

In order to cultivate your experiential flexibility, consciously decide to learn something new, talk a stranger or explore an unknown food, event or podcast each day.

You may be saying, who has time for all that? I have to balance my job, my family, buying groceries, making dinner and running my house. I understand. I am married and have a son, I run my own business, I exercise on a daily basis and I’m currently writing a book. So how can we find time to invite novel experiences into our lives?
Consciously. Actively. Gratefully.
Just this morning, wanting to exercise and learn something new, I walked for an hour in 26° Chicago weather and listened to a Roberto Blake podcast.  I recently discovered Roberto’s YouTube channel: Always Be Creating – Roberto Blake, which has 1000’s of videos about creativity, personal branding, scaling your products/services and living a successful and balanced life as a creative. For me, discovering Roberto’s site and his abundant resources was like winning the lottery!

Make a list of ways you can invite revitalizing content, people, or experiences into your life.

Decide today to begin chipping away at any notions or choices that may be limiting your possibilities.  Commit to a mindful practice of curating your day, your month, and your future.  Fight against resistance and any stagnant forces that might be holding you back.

You deserve to have a flexible, relaxing, and responsive reality that opens you up for creative empowerment and joy.  If you would like individual coaching or to participate in Women’s Empowerment Workshops that will give you tools and skills to:  EXPLORE, CREATE, MAP OUT and IMPLEMENT your plan, join us at


Unearthing your Genius and Discovering your Life’s Work

Perhaps you’ve been waking up early, driven by some nascent desire to excavate your genius and share your wisdom in some way. Who are you to want this recognition? You are the culmination of all that you have seen, experienced and created, that’s who.


If you find yourself drifting off, wondering about the purpose of your life and how you will incorporate this experiential knowledge into your current reinvention, this is for you.


Shifting Undercurrents Invite Us to Embark


4 years ago, I learned how to drive a motorcycle and took it out into the mountains west of Seattle. Speeding down country roads at 60 mph, I began to see possibilities stretch out before me.


Take a risk and learn something new. Expand your worldview.


I was on a roll. Building up my courage, I began collaborating with other writers and dedicated space for listening to my voice. I realized most of my life had been about Creative Metamorphosis. Writing about alternative ways of working, prospering and reinventing yourself consumed me.


Cultivate the skill of listening to and trusting your intuition.  Then act on it.


Take experiential adventures. Create without an agenda. Show up for others. Through this process, “Do What you Love, the Money will Follow” became a truism for me. My career coaching clients celebrated the clarity, balance and synthesis I helped them attain. Letting go of outcomes, I fully embraced my role as a conduit for change. The Universe responded.


Your innate gifts are waiting for you to acknowledge and celebrate them.


On the days when I question everything, my Vision Board reminds me that empowering women to trust their intuition and create magical lives is my jam. Writing and coaching are my current vehicles. Visualization is real and it works.


Your subconscious ramblings are messages from your future self. Concretize your aspirational reality by writing about it and selecting or creating images that represent it.


Ask yourself: what incremental steps can I take today towards my vision?


Give yourself the freedom to experiment, grow, risk, question and evolve.


At this moment, you have the potential to become the most expansive version of yourself. The process of heeding your calling, cultivating your gifts and acting on your dreams won’t happen overnight. It’s ok.  Give yourself time, attention and patience.


Exploring your passions takes courage. It’s scary to take risks but even scarier to stagnate. This task of integrating ourselves into a vibrant life is a form of “spiritual homework.” When you are ready to begin, your Muse will wake you up at night and demand to be heard.


Pay attention to those dreams that feel completely out of reach.  Don’t worry about how you will go from your current iteration to a new version of your evolved self.  


Forget about “how?” Ask “what and why”. Follow your Muse wherever she takes you.


All you have to do is show up and take the first step.


In this moment, I give you permission to make your own mark on the world and to consciously create your dream reality. You may not feel that you need permission, but many of us do.  We are so responsible in our lives, after all.


This journey towards self exploration may feel like the luxury of the young or those who don’t have to go to work in the morning. It’s not. We all need to and get to discover our destiny.


It is not too late. In fact, it is exactly the right time. Clarifying your message and sharing your expertise will allow you to contribute your knowledge and build your legacy. As you further develop your unique offerings, you will also attract people who will resonate with your gifts.


Pay attention to whatever passion calls to you during your quiet reflection, when your family is fed, the bills are paid, and the kitchen sink is clean.


Stop.  Listen.  Engage. Act.  


Today is the day to step into your power and unleash the dragon within. Add your voice to the collective story. Don’t worry about the outcome or the long term implications. Just trust in yourself and in the process. Know that you are a seed about to grow into a forest.


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Joy Ride

Vic on Gypsy Motorcycle

“There is no bad weather, just bad gear.” said by many Seattle-ites

Keeping this in mind, I put on my dark brown Frye Boots, heavy black sweat pants, two hoodies and a black army-navy surplus outer shell. I strap on my sparkly orange helmet and lined gloves, swing one leg over the leather seat and mount my Suzuki TS250X. It is a cold but sunny Sunday and I have a rare 6 hours free.

Sudden October winds almost push me off of Green Bay Road, and into the oncoming traffic, as yellow and orange leaves swirl down onto the road ahead of me. “All Things Considered” streams into my white earbuds, as I drive further and further north, away from my gorgeous but draining home.

“The Field Museum will sponsor a lecture about the shrinking bee population world-wide, and how this has affected pollination and reduced crop yields”, and then, “The Ebola virus has come to America and the implications are frightening,”

The silver gas tank warms the inside of my thighs as I speed up, hitting the open road. Mile by mile, I increase the distance between my body and mind and the city. Somebody, somewhere, has a wood stove or a fireplace working, and I peal through a short corridor of distant smoke.

“According to the Farmer’s Almanac, this winter in Chicago could be even colder than last, with record-breaking temperatures.”

I wonder why I always listen to NPR, a constant stream of words and ideas, many of them negative and fearful, and about things I can’t even control anyway.

Here it is early October, and just last night we had snow and freezing temperatures. It feels as if the city is standing on a precipice, staring down into a canyon of fear about the future: cold, broke, sick, under or unemployed, mad about government policies and spending, afraid of drive-by’s and concealed weapons and worried about saving up enough money for Christmas.

Hand on throttle, wind slipping in under my plastic face shield, loud noise of the engine drowning on the radio as I accelerate, I balance myself on the bike and speed off into the unknown, away from mini-malls, mail boxes with overdue bills and a sink full of dirty dishes.

On the bike, I am a solo traveler, an adventurer out for a weekend ride, a dark-clad image speeding through small towns and down country roads, a kind stranger who is up for anything.

Getting Noticed

funky older women group

We all know that society treats women differently after a ‘certain age’. As younger women, many of us enjoyed the external validation that comes from turned heads, smiles or extra attention when we asked for assistance at stores. Even if we identify as feminists, it still feels good to go through your day like Marlo Thomas in ‘That Girl’! We may not even have realized how good this attention made us feel, until it was suddenly gone or reduced.

However, after about 50, there is often a feeling of invisibility around men, as if they don’t need or want to work for our attention any longer. Suddenly, we may have to wait longer at a counter to get help or go through an entire day with no banter with random men, like we had before. Continue reading “Getting Noticed”